TheObservant

Connections are an important aspect of our lives. As a self-appointed introvert, I silently craved for a genuine human interaction and the feeling of not being judged by others. So was I not an introvert? Maybe I was or still am. The difference now is I’ve learned to enjoy my own company just as much as I value the presence of others. Now, solitude does not mean loneliness. It is about feeling fulfilled and happy without having to rely on others. Sort of like sacred solitude? It is just you amidst the noise around you. I have tried and still want to try out many things to enjoy my own company more. It might be helpful for you, too. Do a task slowly on purpose! I used to have this habit when I got too excited to do something. I overthink the ways to do it. And when the day comes, I do it in a hurry as I don't want to miss out on everything. When you want to enjoy a task alone, take your time and give your sole focus to that. It will allow you to be present. Absolutely no rush! It is...

  Are you noticing the number of cafes around you? I went to a cafe with a friend yesterday, just for a coffee and a banana cake. We shared the cake while talking about life. It was a sunny day, and I desperately wanted to escape to a cool place. And we immediately found one. I have never seen that cafe before. But I noticed that there are many cafes in the same area. What is the appeal of cafes? These places provide more than just food. A sense of comfort With the vast use of the internet, you can visually travel anywhere but the present. The small devices are robbing the time with our loved ones and ourselves. Café is a perfect spot to unwind and spend some quality time with your loved ones. The menus can be pretty similar to one another. But the vibe and intention of the people visiting the cafes are the same. It clearly satisfies an emotional need. Moment of joy Whenever there is a celebration, you can find desserts there. I have seen health-conscious people take care of their ...

I have a bad habit of quickly hopping on comments while watching a video on social media. I saw a senior actress showing up on the red carpet. Looks absolutely gorgeous also an exceptionally talented actress. As per habit, I opened the comment section, and to my dismay, I saw similar kinds of comments like “what happened to her face”, “she doesn't look the same”, and I just sat there thinking… of course, she doesn’t. She has lived. She has grown. She has aged just like all of us are meant to. There’s something deeply unsettling about how quickly we question ageing, as if it’s a flaw instead of a privilege. Alright, I am not going to completely deny that ageing may slow some of us down. But isn't that the whole point?  I want to share what changed for me when I started to get older and how it is actually a privilege. The privilege of knowing your priorities I recall being all over the place in my teenage years and early twenties. The constant pressure of wanting to have it all a...

What is more comforting than a feel-good girl-group movie? As a rom-com girlie, I absolutely love girl squad movies. The number of times I rewatched Sex and the City is endless. It reminds me of the beauty of girlhood or womanhood, and with the right friend group, we have well-wishers for life. If you are looking for some underrated, unapologetic, fun girl squad movies, you are at the right place.  Crossroads If you’re a Britney Spears fan, Crossroads is the cherry on top. I randomly stumbled upon this movie and didn’t regret it. It follows three childhood best friends who grew apart during high school. When they reunite for a road trip, old memories resurface along with new truths. It’s an easy watch with nostalgic early-2000s energy, but it doesn’t shy away from heavier topics either. At its heart, though, it’s about friendship, how it changes, stretches, and sometimes heals. Monte Carlo Monte Carlo feels like a dreamy escape. Three girls end up in Paris before graduation, and ch...

“So annoying,” I find myself muttering continuously. I was furious with someone I love. I was throwing hurtful words at them without thinking. I could see my anger blinding me. I wouldn’t even call it an argument; it was just bickering over something pointless. Yet it felt like a volcano erupting. Only later did I realise it was simply my overthinking. As someone who considers herself a calm person, I was baffled by my own reaction. In that moment, something clicked. I had not been focusing on myself or my inner world, and that neglect might have sparked the whole feud. They say wherever your focus goes, your energy flows. I experienced that truth firsthand. Really? If I had focused on myself, could I have avoided that argument? Let’s review, shall we? Focus Helps You Eliminate Distractions Focusing on yourself and your daily routines helps you filter out things that do not truly concern you. People want to gossip about you? Let them. Does someone do something that upsets you? You feel...

If you are born with, or happen to have, any kind of skill set, it is important to practice regularly. How are you so effortlessly good at this? I am pretty sure the answer would be ‘practice!’. As such, I have an inexplicable joy when it comes to baking desserts. It is just me and my whisks against the world. When I am baking or not baking, that is all I think about. I am not sure if it is about to be involved in the creative world or to have the opportunity to serve the loved ones around me, but I am grateful that I can bake any dessert people want.  Now, as a small bakery business owner, I still practice recipes. So when you are participating in one field for a long time, you can cultivate certain lessons from it. I am happy to share some of them in this blog. The underrated word: Patience If you look into any baking recipes online. (Just Google it now), After the cake is out of the oven, they will ask you to wait until it is completely cooled down. If you start decorating on a ...

You don’t need to give your partner your social media passwords to be in a healthy relationship (u nless you genuinely want to and they ask for it). As a society, we will always be keen to end up with people with great qualities or the walking green flags or even green forests. But we rarely check whether we possess all the qualities we search with our partners or potential partners. So today lets flip the script. Let's do a checklist today on ourselves. Shall we? You talk things out like an emotionally available adult  Even though it sounds cliché, communication is an important factor in a relationship. I think someone who is serious in a relationship will always be up for communication. Even when there is a moment of anger, disappointment or the need to sulk(yup!I would know), take your time but always come back to your partner to have a conversation on what is bothering you. You talk it out or argue a little if it needs to be for the moment, and completely forget about it....

I randomly watched the movie Eat, Pray, Love, as I am a huge fan of Julia Roberts. I went down her filmography rabbit hole and found this movie randomly. I watched this movie solely for her, but by the end of the movie, I learnt alot more than I anticipated. This is one such movie that could change a person’s perspective on life. Whenever I overthink too much or things feel heavy, I will come back to this movie now and then. I want to share what I take away from this movie, or just a simple reminder for you and me as well. We can never stay in the past and expect a different result Life has its way sometimes. Something you never expect happens in your life, and it strikes you like lightning. It might anger you, or it might be painful. It is normal to feel the emotions that arises even if they are negative. However, you cannot sit in those emotions for too long! No matter how much you try or relive the past, you can never actually change anything. In this movie, She goes through her ha...

I read somewhere that when you treat your leisure time as your main task and your job as a side quest, life would be much easier. I have to agree with it. We go to work, work on ourselves, and put effort into our relationship. All these things boil down to doing one very thing. That is enjoying your life. To have the freedom to do whatever we want. One significant thing that I learnt last year is that life is never meant for us to sit in any negative emotions for a long time.  In this mindset, I stepped out of my comfort zone and tried out a few random activities.  Played a Pickleball game And I totally loved it! It was the most hyped sports/game last year. There were courts built for this game everywhere. I stumbled upon this game, and I thought Why not? I played squash when I was very little. The racket still sadly looks at me to this day. After a long time, pickleball caught my eye. As someone who gets lost when people explain any rules of the game, it was pretty easy to un...