The Quiet Comfort of Spending Time Alone

Connections are an important aspect of our lives. As a self-appointed introvert, I silently craved for a genuine human interaction and the feeling of not being judged by others. So was I not an introvert? Maybe I was or still am. The difference now is I’ve learned to enjoy my own company just as much as I value the presence of others.

Now, solitude does not mean loneliness. It is about feeling fulfilled and happy without having to rely on others. Sort of like sacred solitude? It is just you amidst the noise around you.

I have tried and still want to try out many things to enjoy my own company more. It might be helpful for you, too.

Do a task slowly on purpose!

I used to have this habit when I got too excited to do something. I overthink the ways to do it. And when the day comes, I do it in a hurry as I don't want to miss out on everything. When you want to enjoy a task alone, take your time and give your sole focus to that. It will allow you to be present. Absolutely no rush! It is your time.

Create an environment that you like

Remember the random hypothetical questions when we were children. What should your house be made of? As kids, we would list out all our favourite things. That is why the idea of a chocolate-filled house excited us. Similarly, you tend to enjoy your own company when the place or room you stay is surrounded by things you love. Or things that represent yourself. So decorate your place as you like and do it intentionally.

Revisit your favourite childhood activities

Speaking of chocolate houses, there are many other activities I loved as a kid. The less stimulating, simple tasks immediately put my mind at ease. I usually go for colouring. The main point is that it did not need to be perfect. You do not have to post them on social media or need to get other people’s validation on them.

The No-phone zone

Whenever I catch myself using my phone when I decide to immerse myself in something, I can feel it stealing my time. I used to think it was just scrolling through phones. But you tend to look at other people’s lives for hours, instead of living your own. We are all guilty of that at some point in our lives. You can try out a no-phone time with yourself. As you train to spend some quality time with yourself, you might notice less interest in scrolling on phones.

Make your ordinary routines interesting

Our routines can make or break who we are becoming. The good thing is, they do not have to be boring. You can romanticise them as you like. Whether you are drinking your morning tea or eating breakfast, you can make it into something that you like. In that way, you can look forward to those routines every day and love your time with yourself without even trying.

Solitude makes you a content person in general, as you will learn to love yourself. Learning to love your own company is where all other forms of love begin. Self-love leads to many positive possibilities in your life.

May loving your solitude be the first step to it.

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