Have You Ever Tried a Solo Date? Here’s Why You Should

 First of all, you don't have to share your food or expenses! 

Jokes apart, we all know that dates are ideally between two people. But we don't need to wait for another person to go on a date. One thing I've learned in recent years is, there is absolutely no need to wait to do the things you like. So what if you are in long distance relationship, or your best friend is busy tonight, you can take yourself out on a date. You will be missing out so much if you haven't tried a solo date yet. Let's dive into it.

Some solo date ideas for you:

• Solo movie date

• Attend your facourite classes( pottery, baking)

• Cafe date 

• No social media + binge-watching date

• Beach date

  
  

  

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An opportunity to understand yourself more

Have you ever wondered, do you actually like your regular date spot, or are you just following your date everywhere they go? What are you really into, or what do you like to do on your own? If you are unsure about these, then you need a solo date. Taking yourself on a date allows you to spend time with yourself, and you get to create a routine for yourself. This is a pathway to love yourself more. There will be awkwardness initially when you go to movies and restaurants alone, but that is part of the process. If you keep showing up for yourself, you can see yourself being more confident than before. If a simple movie night with a door-delivery pizza is your ideal date night, then you should go for it.

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It builds courage and confidence

If you grew up in a strict household(and you are lucky if you can't relate), it is a norm to be in constant fight or flight mode when it comes to doing new things alone, and often grow up to be timid. Exposing yourself to new things and activities you have never done before helps you to be more courageous to do things by yourself. You will start to realise that the tasks you thought were hard alone get easier. It is empowering to do things alone and simply makes adulting more fun. If you are reading this and you want to try something that you enjoy for a long time, but haven't done it out of fear, it's time for you to do it. 

You set the standard for yourself

Solo dates allow you to decide what you really like and how you deserve to be treated. The more you go on solo dates, the more you will realise you can treat yourself better than anyone else.  In this way, you can immediately recognise what you don't deserve, and you will refuse to settle for the bare minimum. I strongly believe that people would want to treat us based on how we treat ourselves. This will help you from settling for something that does not meet your standard, whether it's relationships, friendships or job opportunities. 

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Simply an opportunity to shut down from outside noises

We are busy with our work, and our minds are filled with various thoughts daily. By bringing yourself up to date, you can just be in your own wonderful world and forget what is going on externally. It is an opportunity for you to just be occupied with the activity you like rather than getting caught up in others’ worlds. As for me, curling up with a Cecelia Ahern book with a hot Milo would suffice to forget everything.

So pick a day and a time, dress up nicely if you want, and bring yourself to that date. Enjoy and keep showing up for yourself.