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The joy of growing older and perks behind it

I have a bad habit of quickly hopping on comments while watching a video on social media. I saw a senior actress showing up on the red carpet. Looks absolutely gorgeous also an exceptionally talented actress. As per habit, I opened the comment section, and to my dismay, I saw similar kinds of comments like “what happened to her face”, “she doesn't look the same”, and I just sat there thinking… of course, she doesn’t.

She has lived. She has grown. She has aged just like all of us are meant to.

There’s something deeply unsettling about how quickly we question ageing, as if it’s a flaw instead of a privilege.

Alright, I am not going to completely deny that ageing may slow some of us down. But isn't that the whole point? 

I want to share what changed for me when I started to get older and how it is actually a privilege.




The privilege of knowing your priorities


I recall being all over the place in my teenage years and early twenties. The constant pressure of wanting to have it all at the same time. Not to mention the self-comparisons, fear of making mistakes and living based on society’s invisible standards. Now,  all those things I mentioned still peek through now and then. But I can recognise emotions, as I realised my priorities. My priorities help me to stay present and get more clarity. It also allows me to choose myself and my happiness time and time again. So if I look in the mirror and ask what is your priority now. I would proudly show the person in the mirror. Because she always got her back.


The Privilege of not giving a…


Giving too much concern about what other people are thinking or talking about you. This is phenomena that you cannot control. In fact, as you get older, more people tend to judge you more, especially if you are someone who lives by your own rules. But the beauty of growing older is that you will learn not to react to these. As I grow older, I've noticed that people often love to give unsolicited advice. They will make you sure you are living according to their expectations eventhough it is your life. Hence, I developed a resistance to people’s opinions about my life and continue to choose myself happily. Without guilt! 


The Privilege of being confident in your body


Contrary to popular opinion on women’s bodies, I am seeing 30-plus women saying they look much prettier and feel healthier now. I could be the financial stability, confidence comes from dealing with many things, or do they finally learn to be comfortable in their own body? As for myself, it is all of the above. I finally appreciate my appearance and have actually started taking care of my body. It is also an eye-opening moment that your outer appearance is determined by what you consume. So good health = looking good. Also, I am wearing what I want to wear. 


And maybe that’s the shift I’m slowly making.

To stop fearing change.
To stop questioning every new phase.
To stop trying to hold on to who I used to be.

Because growing older isn’t about losing yourself.

It’s about meeting yourself again and again in different versions.

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