Are You The Green Flag In Your Relationship?

You don’t need to give your partner your social media passwords to be in a healthy relationship (unless you genuinely want to and they ask for it). As a society, we will always be keen to end up with people with great qualities or the walking green flags or even green forests. But we rarely check whether we possess all the qualities we search with our partners or potential partners. So today lets flip the script. Let's do a checklist today on ourselves. Shall we?

You talk things out like an emotionally available adult

Even though it sounds cliché, communication is an important factor in a relationship. I think someone who is serious in a relationship will always be up for communication. Even when there is a moment of anger, disappointment or the need to sulk(yup!I would know), take your time but always come back to your partner to have a conversation on what is bothering you. You talk it out or argue a little if it needs to be for the moment, and completely forget about it.

We argue, we learn, we forgive each other and move on!

In order to love your partner wholeheartedly, you need to have an important quality in you, which brings us to my next point!

You love yourself!

How does it relate to loving your partner? It highly affects your partner. When you start loving and respecting yourself, you will rarely feel insecure or try to dim your partner's shine. As you have your focus on your plates full of your capabilities and potentials, you will also see the same in your partner. You love yourself so much that you will not wait for external validation all the time. This will not only make you feel complete in a relationship. And chances of you turning it to bitter person are less.

You don’t need outside attention to feel secure

This is a big yet casual factor in a healthy relationship, which is directly connected to my previous point. Choosing presence over performance. You’re not out here flirting “by accident” or keeping backup options “just in case.” When you like someone, you actually like them, and no audience is required. You don’t need random compliments, DMs, or attention from strangers to feel good about yourself. Your self-worth isn’t crowdsourced. And that always starts from self-love. Don't get me wrong! Occasional attention is nice, but as a loving partner, it’s not something you rely on to feel valued.

You grow instead of getting defensive

How one reacts when their partner brings up an issue is vital. It could be something that hits your ego or a hard pill that you do not want to swallow at that time. But having an open heart and listening to your partner shows that you care about what your partner says. This makes you an ultimate green flag.

Remember, being a green flag doesn’t mean being perfect. It just means you’re trying, communicating, and not turning every minor issue into a personality trait.

No judgement! Just self-awareness!

Because at the end of the day, love prevails all!

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