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Long- distance relationship 101

Long-distance relationships are not new, but it is certainly not easy to be in one. Especially when you have a great partner, someone who feels like a calm, safe green forest, waking up without them each day can be tough. However, it is completely doable with some hands-on experience. 


Let’s just get into LDR 101. 


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Reassurance isn't clingy; it’s communication


Texting each other is normal in a long-distance relationship. It helps partners to communicate in a timely and quick manner. However, texting is not always a great form of communication. Emotions and feelings might get lost in translation, and there is a high chance of miscommunication. To avoid that, it is better to reassure each other by being there for each other whenever it's needed. This creates strong emotional stability, which is much needed in a long-distance relationship. A simple “I’m here. I still choose you. You matter to me.” is enough. 



Don't forget to prioritise yourself too


Yes! You are someone’s girlfriend or boyfriend. But that is not your whole personality. It is absolutely important to put in effort to grow in other aspects of your life. It is easier to pass the time by waiting for their call or text. But it is not necessary. With proper communication with your partner, you can balance both relationship and personal growth successfully. If your partner is also focused on growth, you can grow together by supporting one another. I believe it creates a stronger foundation for a relationship. Understanding and a little sacrifice are needed for a long-term relationship.


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Schedule virtual dates


Thankfully, long-distance relationships are easier than ever with today’s technology. There are video calls in all applications. It will be fun to schedule a virtual date with your love and spend time with each other, involving any activities you both enjoy. Whether you are watching a movie, cooking the same recipe ( even if you argue over whether to use peanut butter or butter), Guilty!  And if all you want is their presence, you can simply stay on a call while going about your own business. Either way, it helps to see each other’s faces once in a while to help bridge the distance.


Be expressive


Words are powerful when you are in a long-distance relationship. The reassurances and promises might be the biggest support for yourself or your partner. Hence, it is important to make space for honest conversations, even the hard ones. Whether you're planning a future together or working on yourselves individually, open communication is key. Shame, sadness, anxiety these are some of the difficult things to discuss, but it will only help your relationship to grow stronger. So go ahead and be more expressive without overthinking. I am sure your partner will appreciate the conversation. 



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Always plan your next meet-up


The fun part of being in a long-distance relationship is the distance itself. Distance will create more eagerness and excitement to meet your partner each time. This makes every visit worth remembering. You will focus on creating memories instead of wasting time. So, plan your next meet-up with your partner on when, where, and what. Wait for that day eagerly.


If you miss your partner, just express that you miss them once in a while. I am sure they miss you too. 


So have fun and ask your partner, “When is our next date?”




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