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Flirt at 60, Cry in LDR — Let’s Talk Love Languages

Yup. I took the quiz and found out my love language was not even remotely close to what I thought. Interesting!


However, I am fascinated by love languages, and it makes sense. I am pretty sure we are all 

aware of the five love languages; It's words of affirmation, physical touch, quality time, acts of service and receiving gifts.  We tend to need one particular love language a little more than others based on our preferences.


But then it got me thinking.


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What if a relationship is missing one of these love languages?


Let's dive in.


Words of affirmation


If a relationship lacks words of affirmation from one another, both partners will miss the chance to hear how they truly feel about each other. The random compliments, heartfelt messages and even the random flirtations will fill the gap of excitement in the relationships. I believe you can flirt with your partner even if you turn 60. Words have the power to remind the promises we made for each other, which explains the vows at weddings. Without words of affirmation, we may start to feel unappreciated. A quick “I'm so proud of you” would suffice in a day. 


Acts of service


This is my personal favourite. Just being there when your partner needs and you ‘walk the talk’ and show your partner how much you love them. It does not have to be huge, but just helping them with little things and fulfilling their needs through actions. If there is no act of service, there is a high chance one of the partners might feel unappreciated, even if they say ‘I love you’ through words. A simple gesture of helping them without them asking you is a huge one. This shows that you noticed that they need help, and you did not wait until they ask you to take the load off.  This screams love.


Quality time


What's more valuable than spending time with your loved one and sharing your day? Spending quality time with your partner is one of the romantic gestures because you take time out of your schedule to spend with your partner, just to be with them. Whether in person or virtual calls, people love to be in their partner’s presence. The lack of spending quality time with each other might lead to emotional distance. So, if you know your partner’s love language is quality time, give them your complete attention.


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Receiving gifts 


Let me be clear, it does not have to be expensive. (or totally up to you) It’s the thought and gesture that count. Maybe your partner once mentioned something in passing, and you remembered. You noticed, and you got it for them. That alone speaks volumes.

Gifts are tangible reminders of love. something they can hold on to, even long after the moment has passed. It can be as simple as a handwritten letter, a flower picked on the way home, or that one thing they keep yapping about when they’re excited. It shows that you’re listening, and that matters more than the price tag.



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Physical touch


I can hear long-distance couples sobbing right now. I hear you. Physical touch is important in a relationship, as it extends beyond sexual gestures. Hugs, holding hands, and the reassurance that comes with it are what matter. Even in a room full of people, you can reassure each other by holding hands just to say, “I still see you with a room full of people”.(Yes, I do watch rom-coms). So, hug and say “I love you” to your partner whenever you get the chance.



It is called " love languages” because it goes both ways. Love is about both giving and receiving. We always wonder about our own love languages. 


Now, are you aware of your partner’s love language? Because love doesn’t just speak; it listens too.

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