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When Did Wedding Planning Become a Full-Time Job?

I have seen some loveliest couples turning on each other when it comes to wedding planning. Marriage is about two people promise to each other to stay together no matter what the circumstances are. And the wedding is a mere celebration of two people coming together. At least how it used to be? When I asked my parents and some people who got married about 30, 40 years ago, the wedding was grand and huge, but the wedding planning was not as bothersome as nowadays. So what's the shift now? Let's get into it!



Comformity was normal in those days


If you ask your parents about their wedding day. They will tell you a similar story to other couples who got married at the time, probably with a few tweaks here and there. They might answer as “nothing much”. Even their wedding photographs will look alike. We all have that one studio picture of our parents on their wedding day. So conformity was normalised as long as they could fit into the society's norms. However, couples nowadays want to stand out. They do not want to tell the same stories as others. They want to tell their stories through their wedding. So when they are doing something that has never been done before, it could put some pressure which contributes to the agitation around wedding planning.


The silent villain (social media)




It is refreshing to see that each couple wants their wedding to be unique. But what we are forgetting here is that our society still goes through the phenomenon of conformity, but in a different form. It is none other than social media. It is normal for couples to post their wedding pictures on social media. It is also a new trend for businesses involved in wedding planning, such as photography, makeup artists, to post their clients on their social media handles. When people are exposed to too many new ideas, it creates a thought of “ours should or shouldn't look like this. And here we go with the comparison culture!



Emotional weight


A wedding is not only an event where two people get together. It involves traditions, cultures which vary for different communities. So while planning their wedding, the couple need to keep many things in mind while also dealing with the new comparison culture and not give up on the traditions of the respective weddings. Not to mention the ultimate debate on “who I am going to invite to my wedding”?There were days when people would invite everybody they knew to their wedding. Nowadays, it is the norm to have a compact wedding with very close relatives and friends. This is also not a simple decision to make.


Budget planning






As we are on the topic of who is getting invited to the wedding, this is directly connected to the budget. It is a simple theory of more people means more food and bigger space. So there will be a high budget for food and logistics. Some people may need to cut down on a few people due to this fact. The high prices for each factor around the wedding planning, starting from wedding dresses and shirts, decorations, makeup, food and photography, need proper financial planning. 


If you are one of the couples who are involved in wedding planning and looking forward to the big day, it is going to bring lifelong happiness with your partner. Enjoy every process, even if it doesn't go your way, as it is just a one-day thing. But the love and compatibility between you and your partner will stay on! So congratulations and happy wedding planning!

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